Friends and Friendships

This is a really sensitive topic for me, and I want to talk about it. So let’s define friends. A friend is someone you care about, who cares for you and has your back and shares some of your interests.

But what if you never find anyone who likes things that you do? Are you destined to be alone? I don’t think so. I have friends, but sometimes we have nothing in common. I guess, it’s most of the times, but still they’ll have my back and I will theirs. It’s the way. I care about them.

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But really, can we never find friends who are compatible with us? I’m talking to some of you, who know what sometimes it’s like. I’ve never found anyone who’s compatible with me, but I do have friends and best friends. But even if I call them that, then why am I so closed up when it comes to expressing my feelings.

One, maybe it has to do with the fact that I have a highly sensitive brain, it’s not a disease. It’s just that only 15-20% of the world’s population is born this way. And sometimes it works to my advantage, sometimes it just turns into a weakness. Having a sensitive brain means sensory overload sometimes. You feel too greatly for others, if someone else is hurt emotionally, you feel hurt too. Sometimes you just can’t do anything about it. It all gets too overwhelming, you just want the world to shut up and leave you alone for once.

I want you, who is reading this know that being sensitive doesn’t make you any less of a person. Especially, if you are a guy and were born like me.

So, back to friendships. Friendships are sometimes like hourglasses, once the sand runs out, they disappear before you know it. Some friendships are like rocks, they erode too slowly, hit by wave after wave from an ocean trying to find its way everywhere.

Friends are important in this wide world. But the fact remains that, friendships are not at all as they are portrayed on TV or in fiction. Very rarely is that true.

Finding compatible friends in this world with the internet and social media, is becoming even tougher than before, however much some of you may argue about the benefits of the social media, there are always two sides to a coin. And to this, there is this lack of real world relationships between people. People are getting more and more distant. All we have these days between us are texts and calls and messages.

But then again, I can’t blame anyone for that. It’s just a fact of life. We don’t get enough time. We are too busy living this virtual life that has almost no value when we are living in the real world.

I have to stress that friendships are more important that you realize. The ones you have, don’t neglect them, the ones who you talk to and aren’t friends, make them your friends, because sometimes friends are all you need. And sometimes they are not.

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The World is Not Your Enemy

There are times when I feel that everything in life is trying to fail me or take me on a road that is very likely to be a failure. In these times, I start wondering who our enemy is. The world? Or the people around me? Or myself?

This question is what haunts everybody in times of despair and distress. We start to blame everything, we become unhappy with everything. We become grumpy. We go into depression. Depression is something that haunts everyone in these times. Continue reading “The World is Not Your Enemy”